Going Out with a Baby
Posted by Admin Dino, October 26, 2012
Going out with a baby is a little different from popping into town on your own to shop. Earlier you were simply able to put on your jacket and swing into action, but going out as a twosome requires a little more preparation!
With a baby, outings take longer to plan and organize than you think. You'll have to pack the changing bag to meet all your baby's needs while you're out. Then the inevitable happens: the baby is sick on your shirt as you pick her up to put her in the sling. Or a dirty nappy is produced seconds before closing the front door. Be reassured that you are not the only one to despair of ever getting anywhere on time anymore. Babies and deadlines don't sit at all comfortably together. If you are meeting someone, give an approximate time. Chances are, if she has a baby too, she will appreciate the flexibility.
A walk outside is going to make you feel better than staying at home and thinking that it wasn't worth the effort. Fresh air and exercise will give you a boost of energy, which is particularly useful during days and nights with little sleep. Your baby will benefit too: it's no old wives' tale that fresh air is good for you. The movement of the pram, or being in a sling, will probably send her to sleep more quickly too, and give you some time for window shopping, or just gathering your thoughts in the park.
Getting to know other mothers, by going to a mother and baby group, or just by meeting casually, can result in lifelong friendships and give you the opportunity to talk to others who understand the ups and downs of your current life — because they're in the same boat.
And in the evening, too
While your baby is still tiny and hasn't started solids, you have the ultimate mobile baby. You may feel that you don't want anyone else to look after her, but if you want to have a night out, why not take her along too?
There are plenty of non-smoking restaurants that welcome small babies, especially in the early evening when it's quiet. Some restaurants are particularly family friendly - perhaps your local Italian or Chinese restaurant is family run - your baby would probably be the star of the evening.
Making an effort to do something like this can make you feel part of the human race again, and should also give you time to talk to your partner. And the worst that can happen is that she won't settle in and you'll will have to leave early. Ask for a doggy bag and eat the rest at home!
- Make sure your changing bag is always ready to go — replace any used nappies, or stretch suits as soon as you come home. That way, you can be more spontaneous next time.
- Keep a second stand-by bag always in your car so incase you've forgotten to put something at home, you might hopefully find it in bag no. 2.
- If you feel nervous about going out, particularly after a C-section, ask someone to come with you for the first couple of trips, until you feel more confident.
- Many shops have elevators if they are multi-storey, but they don't always advertise them. Always ask an assistant.
- If your trip involves doors and shops that are hard to negotiate, take the baby in a sling.
- Don't make shopping trips too lengthy. Decide to cut it short and go home before you start to get tired. Trips have a habit of dragging out longer than planned.