Feelings and Physical Skills of Your 1 Month-Old Baby
Posted by Admin Dino, October 15, 2012
Head, arms and legs all come together gradually, as your baby learns to move muscles in the way he wants.
Babies learn to control their bodies from the head downwards and from the middle outwards. By the time your baby is one month old he will have learnt how to support his incredibly heavy head for a short time - at least so long as you keep him upright and don't move. At the same time he's working towards control of his arms. Whenever you put him down awake he will thrash his limbs around - more his arms than his legs.
He's busy exercising his still feeble muscles, ready for the time when he can reach out for what he wants.
Between four and six weeks your baby will smile at you for the first time. It's a sign that he has noticed the difference between people and things. Finally there seems to be someone there! A few weeks after you celebrate his first smile he'll begin to coo socially. Before this you may have made all the running, but now he's ready for his first chat. He's learning to take it in turns. He coos, you listen; you talk, he listens.
Facing up to your baby
When you talk to or feed your baby he will gaze at you, gradually looking more alert. He's focusing on your face because it's curvy, it moves and has areas of high contrast, and babies love all those things. It's also about 20cm away, the distance at which he can focus best, which helps. But no matter what the reason, focusing on faces is a smart move because faces tell him much more about what's going on than, say, a kneecap. Your face is his gateway into the social world. From your face he will learn about smiling, talking and emotions.
It is also a mirror of his importance. It's very hard to hide your true feelings from your baby. If you can't love him straight away, and many parents can't, don't try to hide behind a big smile — your baby will see through it, and the mixed message of looking happy and feeling sad will confuse him. Better to be honest with him and yourself. If your lack of loving is a problem for you talk it through with a good listener or talk to your baby about it — he can't understand a word you say, but his response to you may bring you closer to love.